Your Collective - Mind, Body & Spiritual Balance
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Your Collective - Mind, Body & Spiritual Balance
Candice Marshall's Path to Spiritual Insight
Ever felt like you had a sixth sense? Join me, Sherisse Alexander, as I sit down with Candice Marshall, a gifted psychic and medium with over 20 years of experience, to discuss her spiritual journey. From her early days of premonitions and clairsentient feelings to the challenges she faced growing up in a world that often silenced children's voices, Candice shares captivating personal anecdotes, including how her intuitive warnings once prevented a fatal accident. She also touches on the discovery of similar gifts in her daughters, revealing a profound family lineage of spiritual abilities.
Candice and I explore the fascinating world of mediumship, breaking down the various "Clair" senses such as clairvoyance and clairaudience, and how these abilities can be harnessed with practice. We delve into the deep connection between spiritual and religious practices, emphasizing the role of free will in spiritual exploration. Our conversation highlights the importance of genuine intention and integrity within spiritual communities, offering insights into maintaining a mindset rooted in love and divine protection as one navigates their unique spiritual path.
This episode also sheds light on the transformative power of an abundance mindset, with practical advice on harnessing gratitude to attract positivity. We discuss the importance of mental wellness and suicide prevention, sharing poignant stories from organizations like Morgan's Mission and Richard's Legacy Foundation. Finally, we reflect on the joy and connection that community support brings, sharing moments of laughter and resilience. Tune in for a heartfelt and wisdom-filled episode that will inspire you to embrace and nurture your own spiritual gifts.
Good morning, good afternoon, good evening, wherever you might be when you're listening to this. My name is Sherisse Alexander, your host of Y Collective. Thank you again for joining me today. On today's show, I will be having my friend, Candice Marshall, who has been a psychic and medium for over 20 years, and today what she'll be sharing is her journey and you know how she realized that she had these gifts and how she evolved and how she's using it to help her clients find balance in mind, body and spirit today. So, without further ado, please join me in listening and talking to Candice Marshall.
Sherisse Alexander:Good morning, Candice, and thank you so much for joining me today on Your Collective. I'm so pleased that you agreed to join us here today. For my listeners, this is Candice Marshall, who, well, I'll let her do her intro, but I've known her for about seven years and she has been one of the people I would say that has been in my corner as I have grown and evolved and journeyed and played with many different, I guess, ideas and modalities on this journey to like deepen the connection that I have in a spiritual way. So, Candice, why don't we start by you sharing a little bit about who you are, what you do, how you got to where you are, and then we'll definitely dive in a little bit more about your particular journey and how you evolved.
Candice Marshall:Wonderful. First off, I would like to say, Sherisse, that you inviting me here on the podcast is an honor and, as you well know, I value you very much. You have also and I feel like all clients have lent a certain value to my life and my journey as well. I'm super happy to see you doing this podcast and I'm very proud of you for putting yourself out there, and I believe that is part of your journey as well.
Sherisse Alexander:So fine as it is.
Candice Marshall:I love it. But with that being said, yeah, so you know I have my roots. Family roots go way back to let's just go back to my parents' age. They were musicians, they were given a contract for Capitol Records in Los Angeles and they turned it down to have a family and I always felt like my whole life as a young girl growing up that you know, there there was one of us that would kind of pick that up and do something with it and I feel like that. That one was me.
Candice Marshall:I was the odd one in the family out of four of us, so it quickly became known to me having spiritual gifts of my own, more in a psychic sense. I would call that Claire, claire sentience. So it's, we're in the solar plexus chakra where you feel things, and my sister and I she's also very gifted but she would never admit it but we would feel things as young girls and we would see things and you know, in your young mind that's very, you know, hard to kind of process and to really understand, especially when you're growing up in an era where children are supposed to be silent and not heard. So when you come to your parents and say, hey, I have a feeling about this and generally what it started out as was just premonitions, uh, just a feeling that there was going to be something happening. It sometimes it was really really good and sometimes it was really really serious and, uh, sometimes a little scary. But my family grew to really understand that when, trial and error, by listening to me, they started to realize oh my gosh, you know like there's some merit to this. My younger sister, holly, can definitely attest to this.
Candice Marshall:And there was one instance where we were going on a double date I think I was only about 19, 20. And I just had this horrible feeling like we shouldn't go to the restaurant we were going to after this movie we were seeing, and at the time it was in an area where these movie theaters were set up next to a really important cross section in Edmonton, like on Calgary Trail, going through the white mud, and I said can we just talk in the parking lot a little bit longer? Like, just you know, I just have a feeling that we need to wait. About 10 minutes later we saw an ambulance fly past, a fire truck fly past, you name it, and there was a fatality right at that spot where we would have had to be and my sister's boyfriend and my boyfriend at the time looked at me like what are you? I'm like, I can't explain it. My sister's like just trust her when she gets these feelings.
Candice Marshall:You know, and as grew older, more and more things would start to really reveal themselves At some points. Some of them were very traumatic and I would block them out for quite a period of time. I would, I would say, from about 21, 22 till about maybe 30. I blocked it out entirely, my gifts I. And the reason being is that, you know, having children and them going to school, you know, not wanting them to be questioned about their mother's thought processes and stuff like that was very important to me. I didn't want my you know we still, we still live.
Candice Marshall:We at the time, in the early 90s, mid 90s, the you know that was still questioned by children like, oh, it's an imaginary friend. However, I was starting to notice with both my daughters my daughter Ashley was born in 1997, my daughter Angelina was born in the year 2002, and both of them are extremely gifted clairvoyance and prophets. My middle child definitely has prophecy. So as they were starting to talk to me, I was realizing I didn't have that support as a young girl for a parent to say you know, wow, tell me more. And it wasn't until actually 2008, when I lost my mother, that my youngest actually saw her, two weeks after she had passed. It was just after surgery I had major surgery I'd had and she saw my mother and I was just. I had her describe what she was seeing. She was bang on, you know.
Candice Marshall:She knew she's only six years old and I thought this is something you know, so I started to read the first book that I really got in contact with to help me to understand what I was going through. I had read a lot of Sylvia Brown, really loved her sense of humor, got to meet her in real life too at one point, but it was James Van Praagh that actually I believe it was. You know I can connect, so that would be on a mediumship level evidential spirit mediumship is what it's formally called with him and you know you have to go through quite the process to become a medium of his and get certification of his and get certification. That didn't happen for me until at least my late 40s and now I'm 52. And I've been a practicing medium. I also do energy readings. I do tarot Less and less of that these days because I'm noticing the spiritual healing certification that I have through James and life coaching and life empowerment and past life and quantum healing sessions are what people are really asking for these days. You know I've met so many people through working both publicly and even privately through the community and having again those experiences start to pop up and getting the connection with those loved ones in spirit is what really is through. My six-year-old daughter is what really got me thinking I can do this, I can do this.
Candice Marshall:And then 2020 hit and James Van Praagh had an ad up on Facebook saying you know, join a free call to see if you want to sign up for mediumship, spiritual healing courses, whatever, through his School of Mystical Arts, JVP School of Mystical Arts. And so I thought you know . And so I thought you know I'm going to do this. I mean, nobody can leave their house. I want to do this. I mean this is the time to really, if we're all going to sit still, I want to be, you know, diving into this. And that's just what happened.
Candice Marshall:James and I I did actually, you know, probably thousands of people that were had their hands up in a Zoom call, and I was so lucky that he selected me the day that I got on this and, first of all, I was so excited to talk to him because his his books, really helped me heal from the loss of my mother in 2008. And so I thanked him for that. But then I said, okay, james, I have a question for you. What do you think I should be doing? Mediumship, psychic work, what is it? He looked at me and he's given everyone else.
Candice Marshall:But at this point and answers to what where he thinks they'll do best, he says, you know, Candice, I have a gut feeling that you can do all of it and I thought, wow, that's a big bone to chew off of. I said, well, he goes. Where do you feel you need to start? I said mediumship and I was scared because I said, James, I don't know, like I'm worried about what I'm going to see, like I don't know what people clairvoyantly see. I said I know, as a young girl I did see things and I kind of blocked that out and he assured me that his methods would be very safe.
Candice Marshall:He's a Virgo, so he's a very thorough person. You know he crosses his T's, dots his I's, so his practice is very ethical. And I felt like if I'm going to learn from someone how to do this, it had to be someone who's a pioneer in this industry, who's done it not just on television but with celebrities both publicly and in private. He was the co-producer of the TV show Ghost Whisperer with Jennifer Love Hewitt and I loved that show and I felt like the experiences she was having were a lot of what I was having and he even taught her mediumship as well.
Sherisse Alexander:So just so we can clarify what is the difference between mediumship and being a psychic, because, I'll be honest, I thought they were the same. I mean, I know that there's a difference, but I think that there's a fine line between them.
Candice Marshall:It's so funny you mentioned that, because every time somebody says that to James I can feel a little brain cell is bursting in his head. The difference actually is this every single one of us born on this planet have all the, all the chakras, and the solar plexus chakra is the psychic center of who we are, and that's when people say you know it's located in the upper abdominal, the color associated with it is yellow and that's when you hear people say listen to your gut, what does your gut tell you? That's what they're talking about. Every single person on this planet is programmed with psychic ability everyone, because we are all connected.
Sherisse Alexander:You're jumping ahead.
Candice Marshall:But not everybody can be a medium. Okay, and mediumship is actually having all the Claire's there's Claire sentience, claire audience, claire buoyance, claire cognizance, and Claire Augustine's, which is smell. You can smell perfume.
Sherisse Alexander:I've never heard of that one, yeah, yeah it's really cool so everybody has the clairs and I've I've definitely had conversations with friends where I've said everybody has those gifts, everyone. The difference between you and somebody well, not you, but we'll just say somebody who's using their gifts and somebody who is not, is that it actually takes work to develop them. They're not like the physical senses where you have to actually and let's talk a little bit about that. Actually, before we talk about the clairs and developing them, I want to go back to not everybody can be a medium. Can you dive in more to what you mean by that?
Candice Marshall:Okay, it's, it's not about ego. First of all. I want to mention that because when I say that phrase it's not like, haha, I'm a medium and you're not. It's definitely not that. It's just there. Every you know we're going to dive into the clairs, we'll talk about those momentarily, like you said, and that really kind of goes hand in hand with it. But when you're born with a you know people will call it a sixth sense that you know very strongly in your feelings, like the sentience, like that feeling, I feel like there's something around me. I don't know who or what it is, but I want to know. And it's that thought process of I want to explore this. I want to go outside of my auric field myself and see what's filling the room with me. It's really interesting how that gets developed.
Sherisse Alexander:So is that like feeling into the energy around you? So, for example, you know people will say, when you feel a presence, you might feel cool, like coolness around you. You might feel cool, like coolness around you, you might feel heat around you. That's how you know you're feeling. We'll say an entity or something, a different energy that's outside of yourself, not yours, and not even necessarily a physical one, but something that is in the non-seeing world. That's what you're talking about, correct?
Candice Marshall:Yes, you know a lot of it. I mean, there's some books that they wrote back in the 80s. I can't remember the authors, but they wrote ghost stories of Alberta, ghost stories of BC, all the different provinces, and there was quite a few entries from people that I even knew growing up. Some of the things that they had mentioned and that I had noticed when my youngest daughter was telling me she was seeing certain people. One of them was my grandfather. So a sure way to know that there is something present. There's a couple of things. One you'll notice temperature change in a room. So, let's say you're in midsummer and it's 30 degrees Celsius and you're melting. You have air conditioner on all over the house, but you step in one room in the house and it is freezing cold. Yeah, okay, we know. Then, as you step through the doorway and step back out, step in in, you'll just get a sense that there's, you know, something present there, that it's different than the rest of the energy that's in the rest of the house. Yeah, um, some of the other cues that I would say for people to really kind of watch for, if they are indeed, uh, gifted with this is, uh, you know, I said Claire Augustine's. And that's the smell.
Candice Marshall:You know, I just moved a few months back, but before moving I had lived in an apartment building and I kept complaining to managers saying I keep smelling smoke in my bathroom. I don't know what it is, maybe it's coming from the people downstairs or something. Can you have it checked out? They assured me that no one was smoking on my floor, below me, near me, around me. Then I realized there's a photo of my mom in the bathroom, of her looking in a mirror on her wedding day, and I went and she was a heavy smoker, very heavy smoker, and I realized at the times that I was smelling this. I was feeling a certain level of maybe uncertainty in life on certain things or a little bit stressed, and I believe that was her way of saying you know, just relax, I'm here, I'm with you. I do believe that was her Um and that was her way of showing me like, you know, because that was one way to get my attention. I am not a smoker, but smelling that just like, oh, what's going on, you know? So there's, there's those kinds of things. Oh, what's going on, you know? So there's, there's those kinds of things. And then we go to.
Candice Marshall:You know, I do want to touch a little bit on some of these YouTubers that will go into the haunted places and, you know, want to resurrect certain things. They go into these places but they don't realize that the soul, the spirit of the person that's either, you know, if you will haunting the place that they're in or is present there, may not in fact be demonic or any of what they're feeling. It could be just that they're really scared, they're earthbound, meaning they have not completely crossed over into their heavenly realm and that are stuck and they're scared. And you're a person with the camera equipment that they've never seen in their lifetime, could be hundreds of years back, and they're, you know, like they want to spook you out of there because they don't want you there.
Candice Marshall:There's a show. It's not a show, it's a movie by Nicole Kidman and it's called the Others. I encourage everybody who's listening to this to watch that movie and you'll understand, from the spirit's perspective of how scary it is for them. In fact, sometimes they're more afraid of us than we are of them, because they're just like whoa, who are you?
Sherisse Alexander:So in that sense, and sorry, like, and maybe so in that sense, I mean, we're never really going to know what it's like until we actually leave this physical body. But is it like you? You you're not crossing over, so you're no longer alive, you're in spirit realm and you're like you know in the sixth sense, when Bruce Willis doesn't actually know he's dead, is it? Is? I mean, so is that what you're saying? Like some, some souls?
Sherisse Alexander:are just kind of like stuck because they're like they weren't. I don't want to say they weren't expecting to die, but they're confused because it's like where am I? What is going on? Like I'm just living my life and doing my thing and they're grossly confused by what's going on. Is that what you're likening it to Exactly?
Candice Marshall:And you know, just to kind of give your audience some clarification on this for their loved ones who have passed, maybe in a very tragic way. You know, there's accidents, there's murders, there's all kinds of sudden deaths. Sometimes they come in groups, like a plane crash. We look at you know 9-11, and that's a whole bunch of souls together, soul groups, and sometimes the shock is so sudden for them that they don't understand why they're talking to people they would normally talk to and they're not responding to them.
Candice Marshall:I actually did a past life regression where I had visited a previous life in France that I had and I remember visually seeing. I felt like I was floating in the corner of this beautiful cottage that we had and seeing my parents weeping about my passing. I was only 12, passed from cholera, and I didn't understand until my girlfriend, who's very well coached in doing past life regressions and clearing on that, she taught me how to do that. She said. I said why was I floating? I felt like I was a witch or something, like it was a dream or something. She goes no, no, no. She said you were stuck, you were earth bound, you were scared to cross over. There's many reasons, many reasons also, not just the trauma of the passing. Why a person won't fully cross over yet sometimes is that they could be very, very religious, and so the you know they're reading parts of the bible that are literally saying if you did bad things, you, you're going to go to hell. Yeah, and one of the things that we were taught in evidential spirit mediumship with james is that and I know this because I I've been told this by by the spiritual loved ones when they come through is that the idea of heaven and hell is the conditions of your mind at the time of your passing. Okay, so so if you have, you know you've murdered someone or you've, you know, done really terrible things to people in your life and then maybe had a very traumatic upbringing where you had very religious parents, you may be terrified to cross over because you're thinking I'm going to burn in hell.
Candice Marshall:You know, when we do the mediumship, when I work with a client, it's very important for us to let them know that you know, when the loved one's coming through, they could be earthbound and wanting to communicate, or they could be already on the other side when they are earthbound. You know we there's always a process that I do that's very safe. We open up the chakras, we do a prayer of protection, we go through the mediumship session, we connect them to the loved one, they pass on the message and we close ethically by closing down the chakras and doing a prayer um of protection after that. And so when that happens, you know, I often find I get all the questions you know, why is my loved one not crossed over? And I actually in fact got a phone call a couple days after I did a session with a girlfriend of mine. Her husband had died by suicide and she said he is just like opening doors and turning electrical things on and cupboards are left open. And she said he's driving me and maggie crazy. And I said to her you know, um. She said can you come do a clearing in my house? I said hon, I'm not that kind of medium.
Candice Marshall:I said, but I will say this because I was picking up his energy. I said may I ask you if he was really religious, like if he had a really religious upbringing? She said yeah, that's freaking me out. Why are you saying that? I said because he's scared. He knows that. You know I took my life. Because he's scared. He knows that. You know I took my life. You know, we know that. You know that is a precious gift, which is life, and in the Bible, you know there are certain passages that comment and speak to that, which could lead to fear in a person who's crossed over in that way.
Candice Marshall:I said, all you need to tell him is to ask for a loved one that passed before him and they will bring him to where he needs to be. Okay, so, for in that instance he could probably have asked for a grandparent, a great grandparent, or an aunt that he knew, or an uncle, whomever, even a friend, whoever it is, and in that case they will come and they will. They will lead them to where they need to be and usually, when it's a traumatic passing, they will end up in in what looks like an open out in the open um nature healing center. It's like all these little beds, like little cocoons, with loved ones and family members already there in spirit, visiting them and starting to condition them to the realms of heaven, or their heaven, if you will, and that slowly gets that person out of that fear mindset and they're like, oh okay, I'm in a good place here, this is a good thing, and then they fully cross over at that point.
Candice Marshall:So you know, sometimes for some people they've been great their whole life. You know they saved kittens out of trees and they are a firefighter or whatever. You know paramedic and you know when it's their time it's just like boom, they're right there with their family. But I will say you're met by all your animals, all the, all the animals and pets that you've had in your previous lifetimes and current lifetime that passed before you. You're greeted by them first because they are the most unconditional loving form. So if you're seeing loved ones first, that may be the same case. Right, like you were really unconditionally loved, and not everybody has that kind of upbringing. You know, sometimes you're brought up in a home where, where that love does not exist. So yeah, earthbound that's the difference between earthbound and and and crossing over.
Sherisse Alexander:Thank you for that clarity. I wanted to circle back because this is often kind of a big conversation. So with some of my people not all of my people, but with some of my people, my children, for example I'm very, very open, wide open in discussion and the journey, what I'm learning, so on, and so forth.
Candice Marshall:That's so good, Charisse.
Sherisse Alexander:I think it is beautiful because it really gives them, I think, the freedom, the comfort to be very vulnerable. But I did have an experience this year. I've had a few experiences with people where we get into these discussions and I was really doing a lot of reading on the Claire's and developing them and so on and so forth and, um, I was having this friend, uh, this conversation with her friend and, uh, she's christian and I remember the conversation like it was just yesterday.
Sherisse Alexander:I was sitting there, I know what you're gonna say already, and she was like she was making a comment about psychics and mediums who were not like, whose gifts were not from source, and immediately I remember feeling like defensive about it and I didn't say anything and I'm like, okay, help me understand, what do you mean? And she was talking first of all, she was talking about her own gifts and I said that's clairvoyant. And she said, okay, the gift of sight. And I said, yes, I understand, but it's broadly called clairvoyance and she's like I know that my gift comes from God and she's like, but their gifts I don't know where they come from. And I said, okay, well, we all have gifts, every single one of us.
Sherisse Alexander:It's whether or not you are, a, interested in doing the work to actually develop them and, b, because it is work, it means you, because it's so subtle, it's not. I mean, maybe for some people it's like full, and I imagine that you could get to the point where it's like full movies or full conversations or whatever the case may be, but when you're just starting out, it is it's so, so subtle that you really have to like. You have to really like tune out the outside world in a lot of ways, but anyways.
Sherisse Alexander:So I actually said to her in the moment I'm like, um, I've talked to tons of readers and I know the ones that I vibe with and I know the ones who I don't vibe with.
Sherisse Alexander:I can always the you know, you might be giving me your version of the truth, of what you are sensing at this moment in time, but I you know, and it doesn't matter if I liked the reader or not, every single one of them has always been rooted in love, light, the divine protection, talking about God, or source, the divine, so on and so forth.
Sherisse Alexander:And that's not to say that there aren't people out there who are maybe using their gifts in a nefarious way, but my understanding has always been that, like, your gifts are given to you or you are allowed to develop them for the purpose of helping others, period. And so what I wanted you to talk about, I think sometimes there's this misconception of division right Religious gifts, gifts or those that are coming direct from god and I'm using that word very intentionally versus the idea that if you want to call the source that you believe in anything other than god, then it's maybe something that's unknown, not good, so on and so forth. And I recently had this experience with my son I was I was using angel oracle cards actually.
Sherisse Alexander:Actually, I don't think they were angel oracle cards, they were chakra cards and as soon as I pulled them out, he like flew across the living room. He ran away and I was like what are you doing? Like what's going? He's like that's so terrible. I'm like, but you know me, I'm your mother. Like I'm not you, like this is something like you know what I'm rooted in. You know me, I'm your mother. Like I'm not you like this is something like. You know what I'm rooted in. You know where I cut. Like I don't. I know I don't give you the vibe of being low vibrational or low frequency. So can you maybe touch on that a little bit to help maybe those folks who might be listening who have struggled with this ideology because I know a lot of people who grew up in a very strict or conventional religious faith that this is a real struggle to how do you explore the other modalities in a spiritual walk.
Candice Marshall:Okay, I love this question because I've had much experience with answering it. I've had much experience with answering it. First of all, I want to say to me I embrace all religion. With that being said, I was raised as a Catholic. I have read not the entire Bible, but parts of the Bible. One of the parts that really stick out to me the most is the part that says thou shall not judge your neighbor lest you be judged. And I think about that and I would go to church and I remember there's a certain point in the service where we shake hands and say peace, be with you. But I would look at the faces of people and not see genuine, unconditional love or, you know, camaraderie, if you will. It was like you. You know, I don't want to touch your hand and just these faces people would make. And I'm like this is a house of worship, like what are we here for if we're not going to be congenial, if we're not going to actually follow what the Bible is telling us? So when I step out of that zone, which I did, I stopped going to church.
Candice Marshall:I believe that my spirituality exists within me wholly and completely. It doesn't mean that I don't believe in God, but it also doesn't mean that I don't believe in other people's faith either. Between an actual encounter that you're having, where you feel you have a gift from God or that it might be coming from a different source, is is. It's really simple. It's called free will. Okay, we were gifted with that by God. We can choose to. You know, one of the things that I do know that's in the Bible is that thou shall not worship false idols. So if you have a statue of, say, let's you know, even, of Mary, of Jesus or any of the gods or goddesses in your home, I mean that's your personal preference if you want that. But to worship that is in very Christian, in Christianity, is like you know, you're not truly worshiping the source. Mm, hmm, and so what does that mean? It means the source is actually within us. It's not in a statue, it's not in even a crystal. Even though I work with crystal energy to help heal clients, it's not my only reliable resource. Okay, so when we're're when I'm connecting with spirit, again, we go back to the ethics of it.
Candice Marshall:I was trained by a teacher who's been doing this for many years. He's um, he's been on television, you name it. He's been he. He knows this like old hat. But one of the things I really loved about his teachings was the fact that we had free will. We could choose to do this or choose not to do this. Choose what we believe, choose not what we believe. So he got me into mediumship development circles and that's where I started to learn about other people's gifts and how they worked with their clairs and we would develop together. We'd read for each other and that sort of thing. When it came time for me to teach that because I went to the mediumship level three and I was teaching with two other ladies First of all, there's always going to be differences of opinion. Encouragement is something that is really promoted in that industry in terms of mediumship development circles but I felt like it wasn't to me, it felt like it was about ego in that group.
Candice Marshall:And that's not to say that these people were bad people or anything. It just felt like it was about competition for you know, who's the better medium, that kind of thing. And I'm like I'm out. This is not what it is for me. It feels not right. So I went off and I said I'm going to start my own mediumship development circles, which I do offer on my website. So when you go to Candice andwithanemarshallofficialcom and that's Candice, not Ace, you will see and you scroll down that I do mediumship development circles that people can sign up for.
Candice Marshall:The way that I start off with the attendees, the mediums, with the attendees, the mediums, is working on developing the clairs. We start with clairsentience, the simplest, I would say, the easiest of all of them. We all have the gut feeling that's your psychic self. But we work to the point where we get claircognizance, where you are literally blending with the spirit. Now, how do you know if it's something negative and it's coming from something nefarious as opposed to something that is? You know, this is an actual heavenly being. Yeah, you know it when? Um, a lot of the times I find it's when I drop into. A lot of the times I find it's when I drop into the psychic, so you'll be.
Candice Marshall:At first you might be connected to this being and getting messages. And you're asking. And, just to be clear, the way I do mediumship is we don't fish for information from the clients. You actually get a yes, no, maybe. Or I don't fish for information from the clients. You actually get a yes, no, maybe, or I don't know, and it's all we need as an answer.
Candice Marshall:But when I'm starting to feel like I'm giving them advice or and it's coming from me and not that spirit person that's when I'm like I don't feel like this is a true connection. I'm not going to scare them and say, look, you know, I'm feeling like this might be a little bit of the devil's work here, Like I don't think we should be going any further. I just say I've lost the connection. Or, you know, maybe we should try with someone else, um, reconnect, or maybe do it another day. Reconnect, or maybe do it another day. A lot of the times I get physical mediumship where it could be the day before the day of a session and I will feel the physical pain of the person passing. I'll feel like, oh my gosh, I'm having heart.
Candice Marshall:Am I having heart attack and I stop. I'm like no, you're not, this is coming from something else. I just know it's not me, or stomach pain, or headache pain, whatever it is that I'm feeling. And then all of a sudden I get a client and they, they want mediumship, or they want connection with their loved one. We do the prayer protection, we open up our chakras and boom, that person comes right in and that's the first thing to tell them I knew it was you, I knew this was going to be for you today, because I felt it since yesterday, and I'll tell them the exact pain.
Candice Marshall:And then, when I start to address that, the loved one will start to show us these beautiful memories, including the time of their passing, people surrounding them by their bed, things like that. Things become extremely clear in a very healthy way. The messages are very loving. Mediumship should never be scary. It should never be terrifying. The sitter that's what we call the client. The client that we're working for actually is spirit, not the person who's hired me to connect with their loved one.
Candice Marshall:So when I'm doing this, it's very important for me to source that out. How am I feeling about this? And if I feel like it's, you know, not coming from a true love source, you'll know right away that there's messages. I mean, even James has experienced very angry loved ones with the one that they're connecting with, to the point where he's had to literally encompass himself and the entire room of people that he's talking to in golden light and like a golden energy to really kind of block out that really negative energy from that person. It's not to say that they're the devil, it's just that there may also be loved ones that are still angry with you and they haven't got the chip off their shoulder. More often than not those are people that haven't crossed over yet. But if we're getting into, like you know, there's certain say things that are just really not conducive to who they were, that's when we know we have something other than God with us, god's source, and so I trust that source and so I trust that that's what I go on.
Candice Marshall:Personally, I've talked to other mediums and that's their experience as well. So yes, your friend in many ways is absolutely correct. There's a lot of ego that exists in these development communities, not just with mediumship but even with psychic ability, tarot, spiritual healing, past life clearing, quantum clearing all of these areas have spiritual people and I'm using air quotes because these are people that say they can do these things, but they really didn't go through the entire training and spend the time and devotion to developing that gift on a daily basis, and that's. You'll know that right away, when you're working with that person, you're like you reject, you feel like you want to reject that what they're giving you. I've had that experience a few times myself where I'm like okay, no, this person is not, they're coming from ego, they're not coming from a place of love, they're not coming from a place of unconditional love.
Sherisse Alexander:And thank you for saying that because you know it's, it's been my experience as well as like part of this is trusting yourself, right. So, before you know, if you've never sat with a reader, this is for the audience. And you would like to sit with a reader, you know I would always start with, I mean, you know, a prayer, you know, and setting a positive intention, connect with a reader who just the vibe. I think in all my years I've only had one reader who was like I'm not connected, Like she was able to tell me she's like I don't know why I'm just not connecting with you. Well, um, I'm going to suggest that you talk to somebody else, and I was like that was responsible. I agree, I completely agree. I thought that that was really but there are some that will continue on, yeah, and, and.
Sherisse Alexander:For me in those scenarios it's just like I trust my gut on that and I'm just like you know, especially if they're referred from somebody else and this person's like oh, they were really great and like.
Sherisse Alexander:I know the energy that I like from a reader. So for me now I'm just like I've got my, I've got my, I've got my people, my people. Because at the end of the day, it's like at any time I have a reading and when I say that anytime I have a reading I don't like, it's not because of what the reader is saying, it's the energy that they are bringing, because there is a way that you can explain things to people that they understand what you're saying without it being so shrouded in negativity and just low vibrations. Right? So thank you.
Candice Marshall:I can add to that that have. I've worked in a facility with where they've come to me after a client session and I've never discussed my clients what we've gone through, what we've experienced, what we've explored, whether it's tarot, spiritual healing mediumship I've never done that with anyone else. But I've had people come up to me in this place and say, oh, they'll be back, like kind of like, with a little bit of a snicker, and I'm like what are you talking about? What do you mean? They'll be back. Well, you know, I gave them enough so that they're curious enough that they'll want to come back for another reading or another session or this and that. And I'm like, wow, you know, I'm just, you know, um, I feel that that that that place where I worked at has become a lot more clear because those certain individuals have left Um, but they were definitely not working with with love source. They were working. They were doing it for the money.
Candice Marshall:And you know, that's the first thing that James says when he does the free call, when you want to, when you want to find out more about these courses, he'll say, if you're going to do this for money, you're not in the right place.
Candice Marshall:You need to go somewhere else If you're doing it because you truly love people and truly want to see them healed and have a healthier, happier, holier, whatever joyful life. He always talks about joy. He's such a funny guy, I love him and you know, if you want to do that, then you're in the right place, because if you're doing the right thing, money's going to be there anyways. Exactly, it'll always be there. It'll always show up. It's a matter of trust and I feel that a lot of people go into these kinds of industries. They're so scared that they're not going to get clients right off the bat, that they don't trust themselves, and then that imposter syndrome kind of comes in and then they they start to really get off their game. Yeah, it can happen, it can happen, and some of them are just all for the money, period.
Sherisse Alexander:And thanks for touching on that, um, who's guiding this? Interview you and me were.
Candice Marshall:It's always like these fun chats, right I?
Sherisse Alexander:can't wait to hear on my podcast I look forward to it, you know, because that's also the idea of money. And it's a great place to bring that up, because there's again another conflicting idea out there, that if you are of love, of light, of the divine source, so on and so forth, that you shouldn't be charging. And I say something you shouldn't be charging. And yeah, I'll leave it there and go ahead.
Candice Marshall:So I asked James about that. I thought if I'm going to ask you know someone, it's going to be the you know, the person who's been doing this for quite a few years. I also asked my tarot teacher, who an amazing reader. She's out of Florida now her name is Jess um. She's the one who really I went in depth with the tarot with in 2014-15. She's incredibly gifted reader, um, and she's an astrologer as well, so she got me into the reading birth charts as well. So I do that as a service.
Candice Marshall:Anyways, going to that, um, I was set. I like I said you know, how do we, how do we answer someone who says you shouldn't be charging me because it's your gift? Well, james said it simply as that is as simple as this do you need a good bed to sleep on at night? And I'm looking and kind of, okay, well, that's a weird question, but yes, I mean I have to be comfortable. Yeah, do you need to be fed every day? Yes, I do.
Candice Marshall:Do you need to be at peace with yourself when you're working with a client? Mm-hmm, he says how can you do that if you don't have all those resources like the internet, your phone bill, your food that replenishes to you, your sleep, that replenishes you, gets you really connected to spirit in a way where you're you're healed, you're feeling good and that session ends up being, like you know, we go gangbusters, like on fire. So so, yes, I'm not charging you for my gift, I'm charging you for my time. Yeah, right, and that's, that's the difference. It's the time you know, like I mean I, I still have to pay my bills and if I don't pay my bills, I can't do a phone reading with a client.
Sherisse Alexander:Well, not only that.
Sherisse Alexander:If you're worried about it, then you're not actually able to focus on your client right Because you've got real life sorry, I shouldn't say real life, physical life, external circumstances that are absolutely a part of the journey, right? So, yeah, and further to that, um, you know my thought and this could maybe also be conflicting with some other ideas out there, but my thought is is that the divine wants us to have abundance, wants us to have joy, wants us to, and so it's so about intention and I talked about this a little bit in a podcast around money, and the example that I used is very much in line with what you were talking about is. I talked about my experience as a mortgage broker and anytime my intention with the client was genuinely coming from I want to help you and empower you. It just flowed.
Sherisse Alexander:It was a beautiful experience. I didn't have to work for it, it just would come to me the right clients. I would even ask for that Please send me clients who are easy to work with, and what I mean when I say easy, I don't mean that there aren't challenges, I just mean that they'll work with me in navigating the challenges. Anytime my intention was chasing money and automatically moving into that scarcity mindset. It was a struggle.
Candice Marshall:It was a struggle for me to want to work on the file a hundred percent. Again, all of us are psychic yeah, not everybody's meaning, but with that psychic feeling, I think this woman just wants it for the money. You know, they'll feel that, yeah, absolutely, you're right, absolutely. So I think it's really important, regardless of whether you're, you know, working in'll feel that, yeah, absolutely, you're right, absolutely.
Sherisse Alexander:So I think it's really important, regardless of whether you're, you know, working in the healing arts or not, that when we talk about money, that the intention is really, that you're really aligned with what that intention is. And somebody had said something to me, I think, a few months ago, and it caught me off guard. They were like, oh, you really like abundance? And I was like I was in resistance, I remember, cause I was like, oh, no, no, no Cause. And so it told me that I had a limiting belief about money and what it actually says about me.
Sherisse Alexander:And I said I would like to attract abundance into my life because I want all those things that you just talked about right, being having a good night's sleep, not worrying about bills, good food, da, da, da da. And also, more importantly, cause I know how generous I am, I want to bless everybody in my experience, right, and she's like and don't you think that takes a lot of resources? And I was like, yes, and it was what was able to help me shift from a small mind and like I just want this much too. I want all of it, not I want, I am receiving all of it because I have a lot of people in my life that I want to bless in their experience with me.
Sherisse Alexander:So it's money's a real, it's not a tricky one, but I don't think that folks really dissect the psychology of money and what the underlying core beliefs and values are around money. So thank you for for touching on that.
Candice Marshall:Yeah, it's it's. You know it's a hit or miss. Some people you will know that's how they're programmed. There's actually some people out there that are doing courses about abundance and having an abundance mindset and that you're not broken, that you can empower yourself. I'm all about that. But when I started to look into those kinds of programs, I'm feeling this is not aligning with me because I feel like they're pushing this agenda.
Candice Marshall:I know I've taught social media web marketing. I've designed my own website. I'm a graphic designer by trade journalist that's my background in histories and podcasting, also working with celebrities helping develop their websites, especially in the music industry. I worked with Ken Kelly daughter's Colby Kelly. He worked with Fleetwood Mac on their Rumors album and he said I need you to help me with my website and it was always about, you know, putting that love and energy into it. It was never about like, oh, this guy's famous, I can make a quick buck off of him.
Candice Marshall:And I still stand by that when it comes to what I'm doing right now. I mean, I think that you could even attest to the fact that if I feel that someone is, like you know, going to really need a lot of help for a little while and that there'll be more sessions that I'm going to have with them. I'm going to give them a better deal, money wise, so that they're not, you know, bleeding money when they're trying to heal. Yeah, and to me it's just a courtesy gesture. I know that I have not been. There have been people who have blessed me that you know I can never thank them enough for, and so the courtesy is extended back, you know, in that way. So, but there's not a lot of people out there like that. It's like, nope, my rates are $300 an hour and that's it. And it's like, well, no, I can bend the rules, I own my own company.
Sherisse Alexander:Absolutely. But you know the scarcity mindset and this is one that is really tricky. And this is one that is really tricky and I think that it's for me, in my experience and the people that I talk to. I'm such a huge believer in verbiage and it's even something simple like I don't have any money, or there isn't any money, or I need that money, and the energy that is around that entire statement. And I think that if you start to really look at how we treat it and how we talk about it, so one thing that I'll often say is my resources are currently allocated. I don't say that I don't have money. I say that my resources are currently allocated or money is coming. It's just not in my awareness. Or there's money all around me. I just might not see it at this moment in time. And one thing that I've learned, or that I'm becoming far more aware of, is what a ridiculously powerful manifester I am.
Sherisse Alexander:I was going on a trip with somebody in the last year and she called me up and she was feeling pressed for money and I think she was feeling like she didn't want to go and I was like, don't worry, I got you. I had no idea where this I said the tickets already paid for this is, accommodations are covered. This is covered, that's covered. Like I said, I got you, don't even worry about it. Okay, the truth is is that I didn't know how I got her. I, I, I. It was not part of the plan, but I was just like I'm not worried about it and I genuinely wasn't worried about it. I'm like we're going to go have a good time and I'm not going to worry about this money. We won't, it will work out somehow. And in that moment, because I surrendered and I use the word surrender because people struggle with what that means- I genuinely did not worry about it.
Sherisse Alexander:I went to my mom's house and my mom hands me an envelope of cash. I didn't ask for it, I did not. I didn't say, oh, so we're going on this trip. And there was none of that. I just walked into my parents' house, they give me this envelope and I was just like I literally was just like thank you, angels, ancestors and guides, thank you, and Thank you, angels, ancestors and guides, thank you, and that's what I and I mean. This happened in a day.
Sherisse Alexander:So, that's what I mean when I say how quick it can happen. It absolutely can. So when we shift and we really genuinely and that had happened frequently throughout my career as a mortgage broker as soon as I could, I saw that I was putting a lot of worry into money where I didn't need to.
Sherisse Alexander:The divine always made sure that there was a transaction that would always came in. So the key is because people were like why doesn't it always, why doesn't it feel like enough? Because you're not asking for more, You're limiting yourself. You're saying I only need $5,000 or whatever your number is. Well, you're going to get $5,000. Then, If you say so, now when I look at, I don't even actually put dollar signs. Sometimes I put dollar signs but really what I do is I write down, because there's also power in the pen.
Sherisse Alexander:And that's right, so I will write down all the things that I want to do, and then I'll put a big number around it. I'll even put a time frame on it and I don't learned well.
Sherisse Alexander:I'm an excellent my student and you know it's how do you. I think I did that at the beginning of this year for a car and I didn't put any thought into how, because it rarely shows up the way you think it's going to. When I put it on my vision board I was like I'm going to buy this car and I'm going to buy, buy the. And I did get a car, but I didn't, and I it didn't even come to me the way that I thought it would. So that's why part of the surrender is give up what the journey looks like to getting there. Right, I always say to people around me it's a delicate balance between being very clear on what you want but at the same time surrendering some of the details to it Exactly, which is tricky.
Candice Marshall:It's really tricky. There's a famous phrase that Jess, my tarot teacher, says because she works with the energy of the moon cycles, with the new moon being the idea of planting the seed of what you want, where you write in your journal exactly what you want. Be as specific as you can. I want a white car, I want it to be a Buick Rendezvous, I want it to be a 2022 version. I don't need the brand new but, like I want it by March 2025. You know, you write those things down and then you take that paper out, you fold it towards you, because that's bringing that wish towards you, and then you plant it in soil. That's another little tip I'm just giving your listeners. Even if you're in a country where soil is not accessible in winter, you get a little jar with potting soil and you just put it in there. And then, when you're working with the full moon, which is about release and expansion, that's when you start to see some of those uh intentions starting to. You know, at the new moon starting to come in, but you still may have some things that you need to release, which is, like you said, limiting beliefs. It could be someone else's energy. There's so many ways that I've taught clients how to do that in spiritual healing sessions by first identifying which of their chakras are blocked. We do a consultation and then we go to the chakra, we work on the chakra and how to unblock it. A lot of the times we'll go into past life where we have to clear in that area and and then we that person is able to kind of move not the absolutely able to move on because that clearing has happened. But when those limiting beliefs are there and I myself have also had them I'm not going to say yeah, I'm perfect. I've never felt scared about money. But I will say this I remember when and this is before I even started doing, what I did, even in the entertainment industries, was I became a single mom very quickly. I was married five years and all of a sudden, boom, things were falling apart, had to move into a small little duplex with my kids and I was thinking about Christmas coming and I thought, oh my gosh, you know I only have a three-year-old and a six-year-old and I'm thinking I can't imagine nothing under the tree for them, six-year-old, and and I'm thinking I can't imagine nothing under the tree for them. Uh, you know, growing up, my mother would always, my father would always work their butts off to make sure there was something there. Yeah, so I just you know. I just said, you know, creator God, you know, if you're hearing me, you know, help me out. I'm just gonna put my faith in you and I'm just going to leave it at that.
Candice Marshall:It was December 23rd when I went and checked my mail. I had a particularly long day at work. I was very tired. I got this envelope. There's no return address. It was just written my name on there and inside was a check for $500. Nice, and I thought so.
Candice Marshall:I phoned my parents right away. I'm like who? Which one of you did this? I know you guys must've known I was worried about Christmas. My parents were like what are you talking about?
Candice Marshall:It happened a second year in a row, the next Christmas and the Christmas after that it stopped and I realized that that person was my godmother and that she didn't truly know. She never had children of her own. She didn't know any of the worries associated of being a single parent and raising two children, but she was compassionate enough to know that that was something that was was important to me, for my kids, even though you know it's a material thing, it was important to me at the time and so I truly feel like she was led by her guides you know, creator her guides and said you know, listen, your godchild needs this help. And she did it two years in a row and the third year was the year she passed away and I went ah, I caught her. I know it's you, I've had communication with her since her passing and there's confirmation there, so you know it can come from family, it could come from I've seen it come from the most strangest of places and things, and sometimes it's not even money, it's just that person that's willing to listen to you for five minutes and you need help and they just appear.
Candice Marshall:If you put your faith enough in the idea that unconditional love truly does exist within all of us, you will always receive and you will always have abundance. There's never going to be a lack. And, further to that, it's been said to me by loved ones who have crossed over, as well as it's been said in the Bible, if we're going to go in the religious aspect of things, that god created us, created this existence, this realm, if you will, because earth is one of many realms um to have abundance. It's like it's there for the taking. I mean I'm not saying you go to the, you know, start raiding and looting and pillaging. I'm just saying you know, if you're really looking for what you want, you can find it, but you may not find it in the place you always expect. May not be consumerism that we're looking at in future timelines.
Candice Marshall:What I'm seeing is going back to homesteading people, creating natural goods and natural medicines and natural ways of healing.
Candice Marshall:Going back to reiki um, you know I started that first level of it with the original um teacher.
Candice Marshall:He's 82 right now. He's coming next june to edmonton and he from j and he is the fourth generation to learn from the person who created Reiki in the first place. And he said there's many Western teachers that have taught Reiki but it's not the way it originally was meant to be taught. So I'm like, okay, well, I guess I was led to the right person teaching me even that gift. When I realized that this and I'm looking at my certification on the wall right now and I'm like, yeah, I'm very lucky that I was in the right place at the right time with the right people to guide me, to say, hey, do you want to join this course? Thinking okay, well, it's like every other course you know, like why not, let's just add it to it to the pile. But this is not just like any other thing. It's someone who's mastered his entire life around the idea of Reiki and healing through through light, through the hands, and, uh, it's amazing how you get led to these people when you're not really looking.
Sherisse Alexander:Well, I think that you know, as a, you know piggybacking on that idea. This is really part of awareness and being open to what comes to you, right, and you really have to be. And it's funny, the more aware I become, the more I see. So I've definitely said before like spirit is talking to every single one of us every single day, in every single moment it is. Are you listening? And listening doesn't necessarily mean with your hearing ears, it means are you open to receiving the messages, the communication that's coming to you? And there's so many ways that spirit talks to us and every time it happens I literally laugh out loud and I say thank you.
Sherisse Alexander:I think people think that I must be losing my. Actually, I'm not going to make judgments about what people think about me. I think that I'm vocal enough about this walk that people just accept that this is who I am. But I wanted to talk a little bit about gratitude, because when you're stuck in a bit of a scare and I'm not I'm not even just talking about scarcity, mindset in terms of money, but like, just in general, like that you're, you will receive the things that you ask for, Because you know sometimes the idea that people have with faith, religion, spirituality, is that you're talking to the God of your understanding, you're asking and that they're not listening and that your prayers are not being answered.
Sherisse Alexander:And so one idea that I've often heard, and I genuinely believe, is that gratitude is love. Love and gratitude are the highest vibrations, and even when you're feeling feeling low and feeling like you're not being heard I know that it can be a struggle to like move into that place of I am so happy and so grateful for and pick anything anything Some days. For me, it's like I am so happy and grateful for good coffee. I am so happy and grateful for my amazing bed. I am so happy.
Sherisse Alexander:You know, whatever it is, and I think you know I think I'm just saying this to the audience at large that you know, if you're in a place in your life where it's really it doesn't feel like there's much to be grateful for, pause, take a breath and just feel into that, like there has to be one thing that you can be grateful for, and it starts there, and I, interestingly enough, I did this yesterday. I was just like I was thanking somebody for something and I was like, before I knew it, I was thanking this person for like five things I'm like and I was like, oh wow, I have so many things to be thankful for. It's even just thank you so much for hanging out with me today. It was like really a great time.
Sherisse Alexander:And when you can move your vibration into one of gratitude. You get more, more things coming into your experience. How do we remind people to do that? Cause it's I'm saying it now because I'm in a great mood today, but really great story to tell you about this.
Candice Marshall:Uh, first of all, um, I do want to say that I advocate for two very important um things, if you will, organizations, uh, one is morgan's mission and one is richard's um, excuse me, legacy foundation. Uh, both of those foundations are, for one is my cousin, richard was my cousin, and Morgan was a young lady known to a family here in Fort Saskatchewan, close to Edmonton. I've gotten to know them over the years. I advocate for them because they are organizations built on the idea of bringing that faith and that positivity and hope to people who are in a very low place. We talk about suicide prevention. My cousin died by suicide. Their daughter was only 13 years old when she took her life. She's being severely cyber bullied and so we end up with a society where we have all these youngsters and I'm not going to say just young people we're talking. I've seen, I've talked to my aunt whose son was Richard, my cousin, and she said there are, there are people she know, as young as four years old who have taken their life, or so you know what, what are, what are we? You know, when you think about that, what is this child, what is the environment around the child or the elderly person to be pushed to that point.
Candice Marshall:I remember when I was teaching and I'll give you an example of how I realized I could shine that light for a person. I started to work at a college here in Edmonton that generally the people that attend this college have had maybe a very scarred or rough upbringing, and I had one student in particular who would come to the class. He was usually intoxicated or out of it kind of thing. He would be disruptive and I had at first felt, you know, like a bit of fear because I didn't know if he was going to go off. And the other students which were, you know, like, looking a little fearful too, they're like, can you get them out of here, cause we're a little scared, and it was fear. Then it was empathy not sympathy but empathy and I I called him out of the room one day and at first, when we were in a private conference room, he was saying, you know, all kinds of mean, hateful things that he could say to me, like to try to trip me up. And when he finished I said to him are you finished? Are you done saying what you need to say? And he said, yeah, you know, just like, really, you know aggressive. And I said, okay, so now it's my turn. I want you to know that.
Candice Marshall:I think that you're very smart, I think you know exactly what you're doing and I think you self-sabotage. You have the gift to be able to be an incredible artist. I've seen you even doodling. That could be worked with. Because I was teaching social media about marketing, I said you could promote your art to a company or work with an art company where you can be super creative with this gift.
Candice Marshall:Then this guy just sat there looking at me like, oh, oh, my gosh, this woman is crazy, but her ideas are. Those are great ideas. I said the thing is you have to think outside the box. But you've boxed yourself in with this numbing sensation of, you know, substance abuse and it does numb you. I mean, in some cases, for some people and I'm not going to say that you know people shouldn't be doing that For some people they need it. You know, like there's people suffering cancer, they really need these. You know, I guess, medications, medicated ways of just, you know, not being in the pain in that moment. So this is totally different than what I'm talking about. This man deliberately wanted to numb himself because of the things, the traumas that he had in his past and it was this very thing, that very experience with him he turned his whole life around. He messaged me through linkedin after I stopped teaching the college and I was starting to go more into the metaphysical and really learning about my gifts, that I'm like man if I can help that one person, I can help a bunch of people like this.
Candice Marshall:And then I thought back to junior, to a time I spent with a friend who I felt there's that clairsentience, something was off with him that day and he was kind of like wandering through the halls of the high school and I said what's wrong? I followed him out the door of the school. We went to the rec center attached to the high school. I said we're going to sit and we're going to talk. We talked the entire day till 9 pm. I missed my bus. I lived in Beaumont at the time, I didn't school in Edmonton, my parents were freaking out no cell phones at the time, right, this is the 80s. And we talked till 9 pm. He messaged me about a year ago. He found me on Facebook and he said I just wanted to thank you, because now I have a beautiful wife and two daughters and if I did what I was going to do that day, which was take his own life, I would never have had this experience.
Candice Marshall:And sometimes, you know, when things like that happen, for me it's not about money at all, it's about truly being there for someone. Yeah, and you know, and it comes back to you. So you know going to, you know the whole point of like, you know this mindset of you, know, lack of mindset and that sort of thing. I think that you need to have to align yourself with maybe someone else's experiences that are even worse than what you've experienced in order for you to have the true perspective of you know what my life really isn't that bad. I have a lot to be grateful for because that person's having it really rough. And then you know, when you talk to these people, they start to realize the person you know around them, or maybe their abuser or whatever it is, may have also had it really rough. They start to open their mind to compassion and that's when forgiveness happens and that's when we build a community, you know, of like-minded souls, because we're listening and giving that time to those people and it's not about being on the clock, it's about literally listening to them, just having a normal conversation.
Candice Marshall:I can't tell you how many times that I've done a reading with a client and we'll go an extra hour no charge and we just talk. We just talk about, like you know, what is your view on this, what is your view on that? Like I might need help in this area and you know I'll give little tips and tricks and things like that, where it's just free advice, like it doesn't hurt to do that, you know, because I know that that person may be able to give someone else in their life that advice too, yeah, and so on. And so it's like the head and shoulders shampoo commercial back in the 70s or 80s they'll tell you friends, they'll tell two friends, and so on and so on, and it does. That's how love works.
Candice Marshall:It's really not about secluding yourself, um, feeling like you know, like, um, and and this happens people get through depression and they get really afraid because they have so much taken from them. Remember, this creator takes from you what you no longer need for a reason. It's almost like the cluttered closet that you keep jamming stuff in purchases that you've made that you never use. And then one day you just say you know what I need to clear out the closet. All of a sudden, someone gives you a new pair of beautiful shoes, right, and it's like all of a sudden, these abundant things that are meant to fill that closet, or your spiritual self, start to come to you. Yeah, and so you know, when we declutter the mind and declutter the headspace or the space that we're in, that's when we can fill it up with something beautiful and that's when it happens the magic.
Sherisse Alexander:Yes, I couldn't agree more. Now, just in wrapping up. Uh, I haven't even gone through all of my questions, but that's okay exactly exactly. Um, if somebody was interested in beginning this journey, because it can be very overwhelming, I know for myself it felt very much like trial and error.
Candice Marshall:It's still very much like. Let me try this.
Sherisse Alexander:Okay, does that work? Okay, yes, it does. Great.
Sherisse Alexander:You go in the toolbox and then the inevitable challenge that comes is you've got a lot of tools in your toolbox and I would find myself like really trying to use all these tools at any given time before I realized like, oh no, no, it's like any job, right, like you're not going to use all the tools in every job and I'm not saying this is my job, I just mean like, if there's something that I'm trying to navigate through, there's no need to use every single resource in my box to navigate it. The tools are being shown or, you know, they present themselves in your life so that you will start to rely on your intuition and your gut to figure out, like, which tool you're supposed to use in what scenario. So, getting back to my question, if somebody is like I want to learn more or I want to dive in more, where would you tell them to begin?
Candice Marshall:I would first do a consultation that's always paramount and ethical to understand their background or their mindset is If indeed I am the one to help them, or if it needs to go to another level like psychology or psychiatry, something like that. I think that's very important to identify right off the bat. Is this a spiritual experience or is it a mental health experience? So that's the starting point for me. But if it's, you know they're genuinely wanting to get into this, this spiritual experience of the journey, and let's keep that key word the journey. James always says there's always joy, j-o-y-r-u-r-n-e-y, like he always spells journey and says about joy in the journey. And so patience is the first piece of advice that I'm going to say, because I'll tell you this you're going to work through some yucky stuff. You've got maybe a past that has so many traumas some that you may not even have remembered that do. That will pop up. And so you work through that because you have relationships with people like you could be married, you could have kids, you have a wonderful relationship with your children and family, and maybe afraid that if you go on this journey, you're all of a sudden going to become someone totally different. The reality is, yes, you are, and that's the whole point. You want to become better than you were the day before. You want to be healthier than you were the day before, and that is you know, in essence, how we also show other people that it's safe to go on that journey and it's okay to do that, it's okay that every day is not a good day and to have a bad day it's okay to have, that, it's okay to cry, it's okay to laugh. Just this morning, it is so funny. I mean, I've been having a little bit of a you know, mercury retrograde, all these retrograde planets week, and I was just feeling a little bit like okay, went through a few bumps and scrapes this week, but I still got through it.
Candice Marshall:My sister sends me this hilarious video. I'm in bed it's 8 am and I'm normally on a Sunday. I just want to sleep till like as long as I can because that's my one day and I find myself waking up my neighbors upstairs because I'm laughing so hard at this video. That's only like 15 seconds and I'm like why is this ridiculous thing? Why is it that I remembered it's the joy. It's the joy, it can be found in this. You know, like just your sister sending you a funny TikTok video. It's the connections that we have with the people.
Candice Marshall:It's not boxing yourself in, it's allowing yourself to be open, to laugh, and some people can be so far deep in their depression that laughter doesn't exist for a very long time. But just remember this that somewhere along the way in that journey, where you're feeling depressed down and you don't have, I guess, something to grasp onto, someone will always show up. It could be somebody on the street corner needing 15 cents. They can buy that coffee that you give them a dollar instead of the 15 cents it could be. You know, it could be anything like that. It could be just giving you know.
Candice Marshall:If you were in a space of joy, why would you not want to share that with others? You're not depleting yourself. You're empowering yourself because when you see someone else smiling because you gave them that moment of laughter or whatever it is, but they needed in that moment, you know good talk, or just you know shooting the breeze, whatever it is, they're going to go home and go. You know what I felt, so empowered by that. I feel like I want to do this with others Again.
Candice Marshall:That's how you pass it on and that's how you come, get out of the space of, of the space of the depression or feeling like I can't do this and stepping into what your soul is truly meant to be here for is to experience, understand love, unconditional love, share it and uplift your community, your planet and move on. Our soul moves on to the next level and that may be in another realm I mean, that's a whole other topic but there are many realms and even in the Bible it says my father's house has many mansions. We're talking about universes, different planets, different spaces, star systems you hear people talk about star seeds all the time. Explore that's the funnest part about starting your spiritual journey is exploring what you're attracted to. Yes, therese, I totally understand. Like, when you have all these tools, you're like I want to try them all at once and then all of a sudden you burn out and you procrastinate, go and put them all away.
Candice Marshall:You put away all the toys you start with one um, you know, and you just go from there. For me, my start was when my mom died, and I'm gonna get emotional. I just wanted to connect with her again yeah that was it.
Candice Marshall:I was that was it for me and I got that. I got that from James, yeah, and I'm grateful for him. I'm grateful for that community to get me to that space where I can have that true connection with a loved one. And you know, family is important to me. My community is important to me. The people I love and encourage and work with are valuable beyond measure because they too are also helping me and teaching me as I'm teaching them. It's like a give and take. So there you go, there's your answer for that. But don't be afraid to explore whatever you feel in the moment and don't be afraid to put all those tools away if you're overwhelmed too. That's okay.
Sherisse Alexander:Well, I think, the biggest tool that you eventually recognize I think this is what I've learned. Anyways the biggest tool is me. You know all the other things the tarot and pendulums and crystals and all of that stuff.
Sherisse Alexander:They're great, but your biggest tool is yourself, and I think that for me anyways, I think that was I'll never forget. I was traveling and I had like a suitcase I don't want to say suitcase full of things, but I definitely had some stuff like some tools in my bag and when the bag was lost by the airline, never to be seen again, I remember this, yes.
Sherisse Alexander:And I remember just being like so now, when things like that happen, I'm just like okay, so you don't want me to have these right now. There's something that I'm supposed to learn within this, and I think that's exactly what I was supposed to learn is that you're trying to do too many things with too many things and you're confusing yourself, so let's just keep it real simple, and I literally had nothing.
Candice Marshall:I want to add to that my sons and daughter. Their father had a heart attack and he had died for 12 minutes. You know the story. It's on my website If anyone wants to go and read it. It's in my blog. They had told us that he was not going to live. He was probably going to be on life support the rest of his life you know, vegetable, all those things.
Candice Marshall:And I rallied with a whole community of people to Reiki healers, people who just wanted to pray, and I said to my kids when they were going down the third week of his coma with his ex who they weren't quite divorced yet. She was of the opinion that, you know, let's take him off life support, let's not put him through this anymore kind of thing. He wouldn't want this and my kids were just so adamant like me, like no, we need to. Just he needs time. I kept saying he needs time, he needs time. And when, halfway there, I said they phoned me from Red Deer, because I gave him a big hug and I said he's going to wake up when you get there. They phoned me from Red Deer and they were, you know, like kind of mom. Yes, we don't want you to get all freaked out or anything. But dad just woke up and the he's responding and this and that, like they were telling me all this and I had given my son my mother's rosary Okay, it's made of pearl and it was from her grandmother, beautiful rosary. He was wearing it the entire time. His dad was in a coma and he would pray on that, like you wouldn't believe, and he was wearing it on the way down there. When he got there and saw his dad he had said his father says this is proof that when people are in a coma they can actually hear and see you. He told the kids you know, thank your mom. I saw her praying for me and he went in to go and lean and give his dad a hug. But the rosary caught on the edge of the bed of the hospital and broke it and he was so upset. He home and, oh my gosh, you're talking about. You know you're losing your suitcase and all of those tools he comes home with.
Candice Marshall:Like I wrote, I broke the family heirloom. You know I'm cursed or whatever. I said no, no, no, it just means that it did its job for you. Yeah, it gave you your wish's. Like you don't have to worry about it. This can be fixed, son. Yeah, he was looking for the pearl that went flying off you under the bed. I was just laughing so hard because I said you know, son, these are just things. Yes, they're only tools. The real thing is you like being there for your dad and having that faith? Yeah, but you know, I said it did its job. So if you, if you lose a crystal, you break a pen, you know a pendant or bracelet, bust and the beads go, don't panic. It just means it's done its work with you. It's time to get something new. Yeah, absolutely.
Candice Marshall:Yeah.
Sherisse Alexander:Well, thank you, ms Candice, for joining me today and, uh, I feel like you'll be back again because, like I said, we have barely scratched the surface of all that I wanted to talk about, but that's okay uh, we I'd love to do a live mediumship with you oh, would you. Oh, I would be so open to that. I would love that, though. That would be, or you could invite. I would love that. So open to that.
Candice Marshall:That would be very cool, or you could invite a guest on and we could do it with them, or oh, I would love that. Okay, that would be fun.
Sherisse Alexander:Let's do it Okay. So now we've actually put it on a podcast, we're going to do a live medium show. Oh, that would be cool Around.
Candice Marshall:Halloween would be a great time to do it. I think that would be very and christmas is always good too. You know, you're bringing heaven home for the holidays. People really miss their loved ones. As soon as that november time hits, it's like, oh damn it. I'm thinking of christmas and I'm like, oh, I lost my dad or my mom or my sister, whoever, and I. You know, it's my first christmas without them. Yeah, that would be a really good one.
Sherisse Alexander:Well, let's do it, then you and I will talk more about that. But thank you, thank you, thank you for everything for being with me on this journey, for all that you've taught me, for sharing your story today on the podcast, and I just have nothing but love and gratitude for you. So same goes for you. So thank you, oh same goes for you, sweetie.
Candice Marshall:You've been awesome. You also have taught me things along the way. One of those things is patience. I get that lack of it from my mother, but you have taught me patience, and I think I've taught you that a few times too, if I remember. But it always is something that we're teaching each other. Whether I'm the one instructing you, it doesn't matter. Even the student surpasses the master at some point. You know they have that gift and they're like oh wait, I can teach you this and you have. So I appreciate that First of all, and thank you for having me on. This was fun, wonderful. I can't wait to do it again. Excellent, well, thank you.
Sherisse Alexander:You're welcome. Thank you again for joining me and Candice today as we chatted about her journey and evolution as a healer, psychic and medium. If you are enjoying the content that I'm bringing you every two weeks, please continue to listen on Spotify or Apple podcasts and, as always, if you have any questions or suggestions for content, please feel free to reach out to me @yourcollective. ca. That's S-H-E-R-I-S-S-E at your collectiveca. Without further ado, please take care of yourselves Until next time you.